According to a study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, there’s one foolproof thing that will immediately improve your sex life: communication.
In a new study titled Show or Tell? Does Verbal and/or Nonverbal Sexual Communication Matter for Sexual Satisfaction? found that couples who communicate with each other in bed are happier in their relationship and more sexually satisfied than couples who don’t, but moreover, it was discovered that being comfortable with communicating is just as important.
New research find that comfort with sexual communication is directly linked to sexual satisfaction. Researchers surveyed 398 people between the ages of 18 and 55 and asked them how often they communicate during sex, if they communicate verbally and/or nonverbally, how often and in what way their partner communicates with them, and how happy they are with their relationship and sex life. People who are comfortable talking about sex are also more likely to do so while having sex, the researchers found.
The servey revealed that the most satisfied couples are those who communicate during sex, because letting your partner know what feels good and what doesn’t makes their life a whole lot easier, and yours a whole lot more pleasurable. trying to ascribe to a particular communication style may be less important than simply being satisfied within a relationship with a particular communication style.
“Since many couples may be uncomfortable with direct, verbal communication about sexual pleasure, therapists and counselors can recommend that, during sex, nonverbal communication could also be used to help communicate about pleasure and increase sexual satisfaction.
The study also includes, “Encouraging wide-reaching discussion about our cultural adherence to traditional sexual scripts or stereotypical gender roles during sex and the increasing need to deviate from these roles—could enable increased communication about sexual pleasure, desires and needs, and subsequently lead to increased sexual satisfaction,”